Three Truths We Pretend Don't Exist
I seem to keep hearing people say “I don’t get it. I have a great family, great friends, and great life. But I still fight depression every day.” This really isn’t uncommon. First, let me say this; it takes a very strong person to admit that they battle depression. Second, it’s really more common than you think. Lastly, and the most beautiful of all, is that YOU have the power to change this, and I’m going to explain how.
BUT, before I explain to you how, I’m going to do two things. I’m going to explain to you, WHY, and I’m going to give you a small back story (the very short version) about me.
Fighting depression has ALWAYS been an ongoing thing for me. I really couldn’t understand WHY. I had many wonderful things and people in my life, no traumatic upbringing, and no harrowing incidences that could put me in that mind frame. This then led me to feelings of guilt, which in turn, led me right back to depression. It was a full circle effect that was getting me NOWHERE.
The universe must like me (or more accurately, the universe was just fulfilling my destiny) because at age 27, I went through a conscious awakening that I just couldn’t escape from.
FINALLY, I could see deeper and more clearly than I ever imagined. I awoke from a dream it seemed, and I was able to identify every emotion I have ever felt. Part of my depression was from suppressing emotions I never knew I had. It had felt like an internal explosion.
I like to describe this part of my life as slowly and painfully repairing everything that was wrong. I did this carefully through Buddhism lectures, meditation, mindfulness, being still, and yoga. I repaired relationships that desperately needed mending, and I FINALLY was able to listen to my heart, something I have never really done in the past. I was now choosing love, and for the FIRST time in my life, I felt figured out. I wasn’t ‘lost’ anymore. I was FOUND. It was nothing short of a miracle.
I can HONESTLY say, to present day, I am no longer depressed. I am so proud I chose to face my demons the natural way, as opposed to people constantly shoving drugs and medicine in my face and saying “here, take this, it’ll help.” I choose NO. I healed myself through changing my way of thinking and choosing a more conscious life.
Now, with all that being said, I want to share with you some things you may want to think about as to WHY you may be depressed. With my knowledge on the subject, here are the main 3.
1. Everyone on this Earth wants to love and be genuinely loved by others. I don’t care what anyone says. The more logical the person, the least likely they are to surrender to this statement. But it is the ULTIMATE TRUTH. We are all human beings, connected at the heart. Love is also the only REAL thing in this world. The faster you surrender, the quicker you can be on your recovery from depression. Once this truth is realized, you will need to reevaluate the relationships in your life. Which ones are causing this sadness deep within you? In fact, when I say relationships, I don’t just mean with other people. Look at the love you have with yourself. Do you like him/her? You owe it to yourself to assess self-love. Really think about it….
2. Everyone is here to fulfill a purpose and contribute their special gift to society. This is SO important. I keep seeing women, especially very empathetic and loyal women, give years of their life to husbands, kids, the ‘family life.’ Always putting their needs in front of others. YES, life is about giving and receiving love (see #1), but that’s not what it’s ALL about. Yes, you need this before accomplishing anything in this world, but fulfilling your life’s purpose is also a staple. So when you have a beautiful husband and three children that you simply ADORE, in this lifetime, that won’t EVER be enough for you. It’s time to stop pretending it is. To accept this fact, is stepping in the right direction out of depression. With billions of people on this Earth, I know it’s hard to believe EVERYONE has an individual purpose. But the way to think about this is, we are not a person in the world, the world is within us. We wouldn’t be here if we didn’t have a purpose. It’s your responsibility to figure that out. Without love and listening to your heart, it’s difficult. So first open that heart, and then listen to what it’s telling you. BE YOU, and you’ll be surprised how free you feel and you’ll start to notice the depression lifting a little bit more....
3. We are here to fulfill our destiny, which is unknown. THIS is the most difficult one. In my beliefs (modern Buddhism), we are all here to fulfill a destiny that has already been written for us. This destiny is determined by our dharma, which is another name for cosmic law. This cosmic law is just what needs to happen to us in this life, based on what has happened to us in a past life. This may be a little OUT THERE for some of you, or even against your religious beliefs, but if you approach life in this way, it could really help in extremely difficult times. Sometimes really traumatic things happen to us, beyond our control, and for some people more than others; it can lead someone into a dark place of depression. If you simply allow yourself to believe that whatever is happening to you is part of your journey, to make you the person you are today and to fulfill your dharma, than you will be in much better shape. This is a great example of changing your way of thinking to pull yourself from this dark place. Surrendering to what the universe has in store for you is one of the most beautiful things you could do.
I am depression and anxiety drug-free for two and a half years and I couldn’t be HAPPIER. These 3 truths have helped me immensely with my internal demons and I guarantee they will help you too. The last thing I will leave you with is this: Be truthful to yourself. Live your highest truth. With this, depression will subside and you can be back on track towards the beautiful PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS.