Deciphering 'FOMO'

FOMO: Fear of Missing Out

You’ve probably heard the word ‘FOMO’ (not to confuse with ‘YOLO’, which is a constant in my vocabulary by the way). It supposedly is one of those phrases compressed down in one word (are we getting lazier? I really can’t complain I love this stuff). It stands for ‘Fear Of Missing Out.’ I feel like most people are SO concerned on missing out on SOMETHING. I see more and more MILLENNIALS going out at all hours of the night, blowing money they don’t have, and waking up for work with pounding headaches from lack of sleep.

Zombie Status: Not A Good Look

I almost want to call this an ‘epidemic’ because these bad habits can really be harmful to your life. Lack of sleep is the one that I’m most concerned about. In fact, to make extra money, I used to work crazy late hours at a sports bar and wake up at 6am the next day to make it to my full-time job, only to repeat the cycle once again the following night. I remember the pounding headaches and severe memory loss I was experiencing. I was the closest thing to a zombie you could experience in this lifetime.

So why do we do this to ourselves? It just doesn’t seem logical. OBVIOUSLY we need sleep, and to save our money, and wake up and go to work so we can pay the bills. We KNOW all of this. BUT, the most complex things are life are not logical, in fact, we need to dig deeper here (MY FAVORITE THING).

Now that I’m sitting here contemplating the ‘FOMO’ phenomenon, I have experienced this dreaded on several occasions. It usually surfaces around the times in my life where big changes are happening, my life is entering uncertain territory, or I just plain felt ALONE. That last one was hard to admit, but also makes reasonable sense. We are afraid to sit at home on a Saturday night and watch another episode of Orange is the New Black, because we are just feeling TOO alone.

But I don’t think that’s quite it. Everyone feels alone at times, but loneliness is a deeper issue. Maybe there’s a concealed feeling that you just didn’t know existed. Maybe, just maybe, being surrounded by people when you’re out, drunk as a clam (or skunk? It might be ‘happy as a clam’, but that's neither here nor there), is a nice cover-up for this tumultuous emotion you’re experiencing.

FOMO and the Loneliness Connection

That could be one source of the ‘FOMO’ feeling, but I’m sure it’s not the only one. I am really good at being independent, but have a severely hard time being PHYSICALLY ALONE. I don’t feel loneliness anymore since my epic transformation to a more conscious life. I am very aware I am part of something bigger, a part of a universe that has a destined plan for me. So why do I sometimes feel the dreaded ‘FOMO’ feeling?

I’ve been contemplating this quite recently, since my roommate will be leaving on a two-week vacation very shortly. I guess this will be an ultimate test for myself. I do have plans to stay home, alone. Let’s see if that could work and see if I can pinpoint exactly where the source of fear is brewing.

So what is this SOMETHING we are missing out on? Or like I discussed, maybe it’s not what is going on out there, but perhaps what is going on INSIDE of us. Time for a little self-reflection in the next two weeks; let’s see what I come up with. In the meantime, I suggest you do some digging on your own. You can’t party like a rock star forever. I mean you can, but let’s be HONEST WITH OURSELVES, I don’t think that’s what you really want…..