I am an introvert. However, I am an outgoing introvert that has shy tendencies. It’s funny because I have ONE friend that claims I am an extrovert, but I guess I missed the memo where she knows more than I do about my own self (some anger lingering from a small argument, CLEARLY, but that's neither here nor there).
ANYWAY, being an introvert in an extroverted world can be quite challenging. In fact, it can be really scary. For example, I work in a department at my full-time job with a bunch of introverts. But my company insisted on flying the managers down to our headquarters in Florida for a public speaking training. My manager spent the last half of our meeting yesterday telling me how mortifying it was. #introvertprobz
As an introvert, being thrown into that type of situation can be really stressful. I would simply JUST DIE. HAHAHA. Public speaking is so beyond scary! Although, I am going to have to practice, practice, practice for the career path I am headed towards.
The reputation introverts have is that we are shy and meek. Although that may be true for some introverts, it’s not for all. The TRUE definition of an introvert is someone who re-energizes alone, as opposed to an extrovert, who energizes herself/himself in the accompaniment of other people. I know when I’m out in public too long or if I am feeling SUPER SENSITIVE, all I want to do is be alone.
But sometimes that could lead to too much time alone, and then I am STARVING for social interaction. Last Friday I was at Comic Con NYC all day, and then spent all Friday night at a club being a Social Sandra. It was MAD FUN. But Saturday I just chilled at home, eating pumpkin fro-yo alone and going to bed at 9:30PM.
It’s all about balance, dolls! BUT, I must say this: Forcing an introvert to be social when they are not comfortable is not exactly a GREAT thing to do. So if your friend doesn’t want to go to that party, leave them be.
Introverts can be feisty, too
There’s a great book called Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain. She’s my hero <3 She gives a voice to the introverts (the ‘thinkers’) and shows just how powerful we can be. WE CAN BE LEADERS TOO, YA KNOW?! Suck it, extroverts.
I also feel like I can’t date an extrovert. My last experience was horrible. He always wanted to go out, he always wanted to party. Like, can we stay in and watch Iron Man one Friday or is that an impossible task to ask?! GEEZ, there’s some serious FOMO going on with them….
I KNOW what you’re thinking now. I’M BORING. Well, I can easily tell you that’s not true. In fact, my life is so fulfilling and non-boring, you’ll need a calendar to keep up with me (or read about the shenanigans on my blog). I love my down time just as much as my social life, thank you very much.